April 14th, 2010
If I could share only one thing with you to make the biggest impact on your success, it would be to have you look closely at the people you spend your time with. You are a reflection of them and their attitudes and values – for good, numbness or toxicity – rub off on you!
After spending time with friends, family or coworkers – do you feel energized, powerful and inspired – or drained and exhausted?
The people you spend time with are like the soil to the dreams, business and life seeds you’re planting.
Optimistic, supportive, accepting people will help your Unique Genius bloom (along with your income, enjoyment and freedom).
Pessimistic, discouraging and judgmental people (including the ones we love) will crush your dreams, energy and success – or at least make it feel like you’re moving through molasses.
Valerie Young left a particularly insightful comment on why the people we love can be so discouraging: “The people who are least likely to support our dreams are the people who love us the most. Why? Because they love us. And taking chances like following a dream is scary to them and they want you to be safe.”
- Which of your close friends, coworkers or family members are energy vampires that leave you drained? How can you limit your exposure to toxic or discouraging energy?
- Which of them are inspirational and encouraging, and how can you spend more time with them?
It’s important to know this, because it has an enormouse affect on your own chances of enjoyment and success.
Don’t let people kill your dreams!! Spend time with people that will support you, no matter how crazy you want to be
Parents are usually the first dream killers people experience in life (luckily, mine weren’t).
Did your parents support your aspirations, or discourage you from dreaming? Please encourage your children’s dreams of what they want to be or do – even if those dreams aren’t ‘practical’.
A Quick PebbleStorm People Exercise
Here’s a simple worksheet (a sample from more upcoming www.UniqueGenius.com materials) you can look through and print:
Do You Agree? What’s Worked For You?
Has changing who you spend time with affected your business?
Sometimes it’s hard cutting off or limiting energy vampires – what’s succeeded for you?
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