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GregSpeaking1 독특한 천재 슈퍼 히어로 인터뷰 시리즈는 그들의 목적 주위에 사랑 기업을 만든 평범한 사람들에 관한 것입니다.

모든 사람은 (또는 "호출") 목적을 가지고, 당신은 사랑 사업으로, 목적, 어떤 목적을 설정하는 방법은 항상있다. 그것은 작업의 일부가되면 매일 당신의 목적을 살기 쉽다.

그렉 가드너는 음악가, 작곡가, 아버지 / 남편, 그리고 미스터 판매 실적 코치로 IBM에서 판매 실적 사무실에서 작동합니다. 그는 영업 사원이 더 나은 따라서 더 나은 생활을 수행 할 수 있도록 좋아한다. 그는 또한 IBM은 똑똑한 지구를 만들 수 있도록 믿는다. 그것은 음악, 판매, 무술, 기술, 양육이든 ... 그 사람과 조직이 수행하는 방법에 대한 평생 학생이다.

여기에 우리가 인터뷰에서 덮여 무엇의 일부입니다 :

  • 그가 기업의 매출 "고도를 잃고"때 그렉했다
  • 그렉은 그가 이제까지 한 가장 좋은 일에 경기 침체시 종료 켜져 방법
  • ' "본격적인 판매에 자신의 아이디어에 대한 그렉 공유
  • 어떻게 그렉 취업이나 자신의 사업을 시작하는 사이에 선택
  • 어떻게 그림을 그리기는 그렉의 인생을 바꿔
  • 그는 확인하기 위해 깨어 나면 그는 자신에게 매일 아침을 집 어서 왜 꿈이 아니다
  • 그렉 위치를 선택할 수있게되었습니다 어떻게 그는 여행을하고자 할 때
  • 그렉은 "당신이 궁극적으로 자신을 위해 최선을 다하고 방법"도왔다 자신의 사고 방식을 공유
  • 그렉 정본 항상 당신이 사업을 소유 '해야'의미하지 않는다는 것을 깨달았다
  • 당신과 함께 일하는 사람들과 정렬은 개인적 및 직업적 성장의 열쇠입니다 방법
  • , 이용 약관을 읽고 동의를 변경하거나 나가 : 세 가지 옵션 모두가 모든 상황에있다
  • 그것은 당신의 본능을 신뢰하는 데 걸리는 무엇
  • 왜 다른 사람의 도움을 얻는 것은 매우 중요
  • 진위 사람들의 종류를 유치 리드 왜 작업 할
  • 왜이 그림이 중요했다 :

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[아론] : 나는 그녀가 작은에서 클라이언트에 대한 마케팅을 수행 할 때, 2007 년 마리아 로스 (MOI 아무 관계)을 충족하지만, 기업-Y 소프트웨어 회사. 그녀는 그녀의 자신에 컨설팅을 수행하는 4 년 전 그 일을 떠 있기 때문에, 그녀는 책을 몇 쓰여, MSNBC, NPR, ABC 뉴스와 같은 장소에 나타나고, 그녀의 작품과 개인 정보 및 이익을 혼합의 가치에 대해 많은 것을 배웠습니다 ...

내가 브랜딩 컨설팅 일을 시작했을 때, 나는 나의 비즈니스와 개인 생활 사이에 명확한 분리를했다. 미국 기업에서 몇 년 동안 근무하는이 일을 유일한 방법 일이었다 가르쳐 - 고객과 개인 생활에 대한 세부 정보를 공유하지 않는, 그것은 "전문가가 아닌"입니다.

내가 네 년 전 내 유일한 천재 사업을 시작하기 때문에, 시간이 다릅니다. 이 문서는 공개적으로 공유하는 개인의 경험이 비즈니스에 가치를 추가하는 방법에 관한 것입니다. 내 브랜드 진화했습니다 내 개인적인 열정의 더 혼합 (뇌를!) - 연기, 쓰기, 와인, 심지어 영감을 - 내 작품에. 브랜드 모두 좋은 이야기를 약이기 때문에, 난 쉽게 고객에게 내 개인적인 경험을 적용 할 수있는 방법을 찾을 수 있습니다 (그래서 할 수 있습니다).

내가 시작했을 때 예를 들어, 어떤 사람들은 당신이 당신의 비즈니스 페이지에 배우 걸 언급하지해야한다 "고 말했다. 사람들은. 당신이 당신의 브랜딩 작업에 최선을 다하고되지 않은 생각 "그러나이 작은 재미있는 이야기가 사람들을 그리고 또한 미디어 관심사를 밝혀졌습니다. 그것은 나를 돋보이게하는 데 도움이됩니다. 수시로 행동에 참여하는 것은 내 창의성을 증명 내 비즈니스 작업에 대한 독특한 관점을 제공합니다. 실무에 정통한과 창의성을 혼합 : 내 브랜드도 일부입니다.

최근에, 난라는 개인 책을 쓴 내 뇌를 재부팅을 어떻게 괴물 동맥류 재 프레임 내 인생 . 그것에서는, 나는 거의 육개월 내 인생에 다시 내 비즈니스와 내 회복의 연대기와 "반환"을 시작한 후 파열 된 뇌 동맥류로 사망하는 방법을 공유 할 수 있습니다. 나는 가치있는 교훈을 공유하고 싶었다, 그러나 나는 또한 뇌 손상의 놀라운 종종 눈에 보이지 않는 효과에 사람들을 교육에 대한 열정이야. 나는 기적적인 회복했다 동안, 나는 아직 아무도 그러나 저를 볼 수 없습니다인지 적, 심리적 장애에 적응해야했다.

처음에, 나는 뇌 동맥류를 가지고 있었던 비즈니스 연락처와 함께 공유 할 주저했다. 나는 클라이언트가 내 능력이 손상되었다 생각 생각했다. 그러나 사람들이 걱정 밝혀졌다; 그들은 내가 복구 방법에 대한 자세한 내용을 알고 싶어하고 다시 다시 내 사업 번창을 구축. 그들은 내가 그 이후로 두 권의 책을 쓴 또한 내 연설에 정통한을 상실하지 않았 음을 깜짝 놀라게했다. 여러 가지면에서 그들은 나의 윤리, 결단력과 용기의 흔적 이러한 참조 - 이들은 그들이 고용하려고하는 사람으로부터 자신이 원하는 자질이다. 의 출시와 함께 내 뇌를 재부팅 , 사실은 내 고객 및 지역 사회와 풍부한 연결되어 있습니다.

더 많은 사람들이 지금은 "개인 브랜드"다스리게 ", microbusiness"자신의를 시작하고있다. 예, 귀하의 비즈니스 가치와 쇼 결과를 제공하는,하지만 아는 사람은 같은 그들이 당신과 함께 사업을하기 전에 사람으로 당신을 신뢰하려면. 지난 몇 년 동안, 내 사업이 정말 날이며, 사람들이 나를 좋아하지 않는 경우에, 그들은 상관없이 내가 제공 할 수있는 걸 (또는 그 반대) 작업을하지 즐길하지 않을 것을 포용 배웠다.

브랜드 게임 오늘의 이름은 접근성, 인류 및 연결입니다. 사람들은 자동 기계를 고용하고 싶지 않다. 단지 관객 값으로 그 중 일부를 묶는 방법을 찾기 위해 시도 - 믹스에 당신의 자연적인 음성, 통찰력과 경험을 가져 주시기 바랍니다. 나는 종종 멋진 영화, 멋진 레스토랑, 또는 내가 만들고있어 특정 지점을 소개하기 위해 지역 사회와 개인 숭배 장난 광고를 인용한다.

나는 당신이 ... 말을 듣고 "하지만 큰 기업에서 알파 남성 임원을 대상으로하고, 그들은 개인 아무것도 듣고 싶지 않아."자네 말이 맞아. 그들은 결과를 원한다. 오프 토픽하지 않고 테이블에 자신에 대해 뭔가를 가져; 당신은 진정한 가치를 추가 할 것입니다.

내 개인적인 책의 출시와 함께, 내 비즈니스 관계는 실제로 강해지고있다. 내 커뮤니티는 나의 새로운면을 볼 수 가져옵니다. 사람은 브랜드 전략이 될 수 있지만, 얼마나 많은 사람들이 살아 (와 번영) 뇌 동맥류 후 한?! 게다가, 그것은 내 작품에서 분기 도왔다 : 나는 지금 비즈니스 관객 브랜딩에 있지만 건강 능력 및 의료 관객에 대한 환자의 경험뿐만 아니라 말을 질문한다.

더 시너지 효과가있다 : 당신은 뇌 손상에서 배울 수있는 브랜드 수업에 대한 비즈니스 소유자에게 프리젠 테이션을했다! 그것은 재미 기억에 남는 무엇보다도, 자신의 기업을위한 실질적인 조언으로 가득했다.

당신이 당신의 고유 한 천재 또는 열정 사업을 구축으로, (종이에 할 수 있다면 지금을 답을 적어)이 질문에 대해 생각 :

  1. 어떻게 개인의 경험, 재능과 열정은 다른 사람에게 가치를 추가하는 방법은 무엇입니까?
  2. 어떻게 당신의 경험은 당신의 사업, 당신의 생활, 당신의 임무를 형성 할 수 있는가?

아직 자신의 사업을하지 않는 경우에도, 값을 추가하는 방식으로 현재의 직업에 당신의 개를 통합하려고합니다.

PebbleStorm 게스트 블로거, 마리아 로스 최고 브랜드 전략과 레드 조각, 비즈니스, 브랜드와 당신의 두뇌를 높일 수있는 이야기와 전략의 디지털 만능의 창조자이다. 그녀는 창업, solopreneurs하고, 정보를 제공하고 고객을 즐겁게 맞물린 브랜드 공예하는 방법에 대한 작은 성장 기업을 권장합니다. 마리아의 저자이다 브랜딩 소규모 기업을위한 기본 사항 과 최근 공개 된 유머와 진심 회고록 내 뇌를 재부팅 . 동적 스피커, 그녀는 매우 기조 연설과 워크숍을 제시 후 모색하고, MSNBC, NPR, ABC 뉴스와 기업가의 등장, LA 타임즈, 시애틀 비즈니스와 콜럼버스 CEO.

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이행하고하는 것은 당신이 돈을 많이 만드는 사람과 만드는 일 사이에 가장 중요한 것은 서 자신의 고유 한 경로 '의 경우에도 많이 따라 성공을 넣는 방식 만능 자신감 또는 "생명 자신감"입니다 비즈니스 '사람들이 부족 할 수 있습니다.

생명 자신감 이런 종류의 내장 또는 하루 누군가가 태어난 것으로 감소되는 시작 ...

그래서 당신은 부모 또는 부모에가-수있어, 당신은 어디에 어떻게 당신의 아기가 잠을 자게 결정의 중간에있어.

공식 소아 사회는 "당신이 그들을 다치게 할 수도, 그것은 당신과 함께 침대에서 아기 잠을 위험하다"라고 말합니다.

다른 사람들, 책, 블로그, "이 공동 자"에 대해 말씀 "침대 공유하는"그리고 더 많은 옵션 ... 도대체 무엇을해야하는지에 당신이 혼란 압도 모든 옵션에서와 조언을 떠나! 계속해서 "얼마 동안 난 내 침대에서, 침대에서를 시작하고 할 때 나는 그들을 이동? ... 마십시오"하고 ...

당신은 그들이 당신과 함께 잠을 어떻게 실현 여부를 성인으로 그들에 영향을 했습니까? 여기에 내 아내와 나는 우리의 신생아 딸 PARI (했던 이유를 말해주지 에 오신 것을 환영합니다, PARI 샬롯 로스 ) 그녀의 첫 몇 주 동안 우리에서 대부분의 밤을 잠을하고, 왜 우리는 바로 우리 사이에 침대에서 우리와 함께 자고 그녀를 움직였다.

첫째, 비록 - 당신이나 당신의 가족의 이혼 되었는가? 헌신적 인 관계를 수 없거나 기꺼이 '영원히 싱글'것에 대해 무엇을, 아래로 잡아? 아마 당신 또는 배우자가 외로움, 친밀감 또는 자체 수용 고생했다? 어떤 일이나 초과 달성 등 "사회적으로 수용"포함 해 중독에 대한?

이러한 삶의 문제의 뒤에 원인은 복잡하지만, 그들은 첫 번째 단계로 시작했습니다 수있는 기회가있다 : 당신이 개최 또는 밤에 당신의 부모와 함께 잠을 포함, 아기로 충분히 감동되지 않았 음.

난 그냥 아빠하고 연구의 경험을 말하는 게 아니에요, 나는 또한 아기 되었기에의 경험에서 이런 식으로 제기 말하기와 아직 (올 예) 40년 나중에 어른과 같은 효과를 느낄 수있어.

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그냥 아기처럼 - - (아기 사랑을받는 주요 방법)을 중심으로 개최 만지면, 사랑했다 - 밤 등을 통해 난 내가 원하는 아기로 1 일에서 침대에서 혼자 잤다. "아기 아론"- 투 -이 깊은 수준의 그 날에 심은 최초의 씨앗이었다 내 부모에게 충분한 사랑스러운하지 않았다.

물론 그 논리적하지 않고 부모님이 나를 사랑 할 수있을 최고의 육아 일을했다 (모든 부모들처럼, 나는 모든 위대한 물건 그들이하는 짓에 대한 그들에게 감사 해요) ...하지만 아기가 기분이 생물, 합리적인되지 것. 그들은 단지 당신의 존재 (사랑) 또는 부재 (포기) 느낌 - 아기가 이해하거나 당신이하거나 그들과 함께 자고 또는 닿지 않는지 상관하지 않는다.

내가 자란, 나는 misguidedly 성취를 통해 "나는 충분하지 않다"의 원래 느낌을 대체하기 위해 검색 ... 수십 년 동안 학교와 직장에서 바른 생활로 바뀌. 더 많은 돈, 제목이나 명성이 규정 한 그 원래의 감정 트랙을 치유하기 위해 아무것도하지 않기 때문에, 그것은 내가 그 트랙 떨어져 자신을 끌어하지 않았다면 끝없는 검색되고, 다음 내 아내 제시카와 가족을 발견 한 것입니다 .

사랑은 말 그대로 영양소이다

첫 번째 및 두 번째로 중요한 '영양소'아기가 신체적, 정신적 건강을 위해, 도착 무엇입니까? 음식 및 수면.

? 어떤 신체적, 정신적, 정서적 건강을위한 가장 중요한 세 번째 것은 사랑이다 - 주로 개최 및 만지면.

암호 없이는 - 어린이 또는 성인 - 자신의 잠재력을 최대한 개발할 수 있습니다.

아기와 함께 잠자는 가장 일반적인 두 가지 공포

부모가 첫 번째 밤에서 침대에서 아기를 넣어하는 것이 매우 일반적이다. 이것은 당신이 '생각'하는지이기 때문에, 당신의 부모가했고, 전문가가 수행하는 당신이 바로 ... 무엇을 말해 무엇입니까?

종종 두 가지 논리적 인 이유가 있습니다 :

당신이 그들에 압 위험을 감수하고 싶지 않고, - 1) "그것은 위험하다"

2) "그들도 부착 할 것입니다 혼자 잠을 싶지 않을 것"그들이 지금 당신과 함께 잠에 익숙해 경우 때문입니다.) "이 우리와 함께자는 습관을 중단하려고 고문을 수있을 것"또는 그것은, 그들은 그들 자신의 침대에서 잠에 도착하는 것은 불가능합니다 ... 미래에 중지 할 수 없습니다. 그리고 그들은 항상 너무 ... 그들은하지 않습니다, 가난한 끈덕지게하고 독립적이지, 부착 할 것?

사실 - 당신이 당신의 아기와 함께 잠을 경우, 그들은 자신의 수면 공간에 있다면 존재하지 않을 것이다 (당신이 술을 마시거나 수면 약물의 일종을 특히 경우) 수면에 어떤 방식으로 상처의 약간의 가능성이있다 .

적어도 당신과 함께 잠을 ... - 아기가 당신에게서 떨어져 잠을 경우 그리고 그들은 너무 집착하지 않습니다

문제는 여기에있다 : 혼자 잠자는 것은 아기를 Traumatizes 왜


<= PARI의 뽀빠이 가장

아기는 완전히 순간입니다. 그들은 과거를 기억하거나 미래가 모른다.

아기의 혼자는 경우 - 침대에서 말을 - 그리고 그들은 (심지어 자고있는 동안)주의가 필요한 아직을 느끼거나 감지 할 수없는, 모두가 아는 그들이 혼자 느끼고 포기 (다시 논리적이지,하지만 아기가 논리적되지 않습니다)입니다. 그들은 그들의 기저귀가 더럽거나 배고프 때 그들이 아는 것처럼, 첫날부터 감정적이를 느낄 수 있습니다. 순간이기 때문에, 그들이 아는 그들이 지금 당장 당신을 감지 할 수있다 ... 거기는 분 전이었다, 또는 5 분 후에 다시오고있다 기억하지 않는다.

그들은 개최 될 필사적과 사랑, 그리고 그들이 가장 필요로 할 때 그렇지 않은 경우,이, 그들은 외로움에 대한 방어를 구축 시간 후, 생존 그들에게 매우 고통스러운 ... 그들은 벽을 넣어, 분리 시작 최대 밖으로 감각이 감정적으로.

당신이 원하는 모든 관계없이 지금 밤새 울음을 멈추고 잠을 당신의 아기 찾아온 .. 방법이 작동 할 "을 부르짖"-이 작업을 수행하는 방법을 지적하는 예 '를 쉽게 볼'을 사용하는 - 이것은 왜 성인이 자신의 미래에. . 그들은 덜 사랑과 친밀감을 필요로하는 것 때문에 아기가 포기하고 차단하기 때문에 작동 그들은 자신의 감정에서 분리 ... 성인으로 성장하기위한 첫 단계 - 남자 & 여자 모두 - 감정과 감정에서 분리합니다. 그들은 어떤 비용 6~8주 후 밤새 자고 시작하지만, 수 있는가? 그것은 그들 20, 친밀감 문제의 30 년 이상을주는 가치가 있나요?

그럼 왜 우리는 그녀의 첫 번째 육주를 통해 밤의 대부분을 우​​리에게 PARI의 잠을 했습니까? 그녀는 가능한 한 쉽게 자궁 바깥 생활로의 전환을 내릴 수 있도록합니다. 많은 부모가 아기가 자궁에서 너무 다른 (그리고 종종 무서운)는이 세계에 새로운, 그리고 편안함의 아기의 유일한 소스 잊지 너무 빠르다, 연결 및 신뢰가있다! 당신은 그들이 여기에 편안한 느낌으로의 전환을 도와, 그리고 그들에게 몇 주 또는 몇 달이 걸릴 수 있습니다. 우리는 단지 그녀가 더 이상 긴 streteches 우리 침대에서 더 자신감 수면을 느끼기 시작하면, 그녀의 관심을 지불, 말할 수 있습니다.

극단적 인 예

극단적 인 경우, 충분히지지하지 않는 제 3 세계 국가의 고아처럼, 아기 성장, 이동이 중지됩니다 심지어 죽을 수 있습니다. 나는 아프리카의 고아원에 있었어요 그런데 눈에 띄게 개최를 희망 포기했습니다 있기 때문에, 애절한 아기가 거짓말을 볼 수 있습니다. 그것은 거기 미묘한 아니다.

미국에서 여기의 차이는 우리가 아기를 개최한다는 것입니다 '충분한'그들은 육체적으로 건강을 유지, 우리는 년 또는 수십 년 동안, 때로는 감정적 인 상처를 감지 할 수 없습니다. (그래서 이혼 / 중독 / 정서적 마비 / 우울증 / 때문에 모든 사람이 그들을 가지고 있기 때문에 불안 / 방향 - lessness은, 오른쪽, 정상입니까?)

이러한 감정의 벽은 성인이, 자신의 삶에 대한 아기의 일부를 유지됩니다. 이러한 성인 - 자신처럼 - 예를 들어, 거리에 친밀감을 유지합니다. "사람이 내가 사랑하고 필요로 멀리 가서 저를 포기하고 다시 나를 다치게 할 수 있도록 더 나은 거라고 거리에서 그들을 유지 ...."의 깊은 눈에 보이지 않는 / 무의식적 인 패턴, 기억이있다

우리는 또한 자기 수용과 자신감을 가지고 투쟁. 같은 잠재 의식에 기록 된 두려움 소리 "나는 부모님의 사랑을 충분히 좋지 않았다 나는 가치가 아니에요 ... 아무도 날 원하지 않을 것이다."이것은 관계 문제로 번역 할 수 있습니다 직장에서,이든 사랑 또는 가족과 함께. 또한 - 사람이 성공해서 그들이 행복 또는 확신 의미하지 않는다. 그것은 그들이 그렇지 않으면 그것을 증명하기 위해 자신의 엉덩이를 작동하는지, 그들의 불안을 거부하는, 가치있는 자신을 증명할 그렇게 절실 것을 그냥 가능성이 높습니다.

아주 몇 가지 옵션을 지원하지 않은

아이가 분리, 외로움이나 불안과 같은 도전적인 삶의 경험을 방지하는 하나의 마법 솔루션은 없습니다. 체인의 첫 번째 링크처럼 - - 그러나 누른만큼 당신이 수를 만지기, 일, 그들이 크롤링을 시작하기 전까지는 밤, 중요한 첫 번째 단계는 그들에게 그들에게 서비스를 제공하는 고체 감정과 자신감 기초를 제공합니다 생활.

나의 가르침 관행 (예측 가능한 수익 CEOFlow, 독특한 천재), 내가 여기에 다른 사람들을 위해 작동하지만 모든 선택 사항이며, 그것은 단지 당신이 알고 있기 때문에 실질적으로,이 작업을하는 방법을 항상 당신의 선택 무엇 "사람들에게 시간의 99 %에서 귀하의 비즈니스 또는 생활. "

하지만,하지만 ...

아주 몇 가지 진실을 말하고처럼, 선택되지 않습니다.

그리고 선택 사항이 아니다 하나의 다른 점은 잡고 가능한 한 아기를 만지고. 함께자는 것은 하나 단번에 그들에게이 많이 줄 그냥 좋은 방법입니다.

다시 말하지만, 그것은 당신의 아이를위한 쉬운 인생의 모든 것을 만들 수있는 마법의 약이 아니다 (게시물 : 생활은 항상 쉽게 있어야되지 않고, 당신이 항상 행복하기를 생각하지 않습니다 ). 그것은 더 많은 은행에서 여분의 현금을 많이 가지고 사업처럼 - 자동으로 비즈니스를 성공하지 않지만, 피할 수 기복을 통해 얻을 그것에게 더 많은 유연성과 마음의 평화를 제공합니다.

그래서 어떻게 그것은 우리를 위해 일하고, 우리는 잠을합니까?

우리가 우리 사이에 침대에서 잠을 우리에 그대로 잠에서 그녀를 이동 시작했을 때 약 6 주 후, PARI을 통해 대부분의 밤을 자고 있었다 - (때로는 아내가 일어나 하듯 간호사에게 때때로 돌고 - 5-7시간 말 , 때로는!) 팔주에서, PARI는 일부 심야 반 잠 간호와, 심지어 8 시간 밤을 자고 있었다. 이제 일주일이 지난 후, 구주에, 그녀는 지금 일반적으로 직선 8~10시간 밤 (오후 9시부터 오전 6시까지 또는 오전 7시)의 밤을 통해 자. 그녀는 일반적으로 종종 아침의 많은 통해, 잠시 다시 밖으로 잠 전달하기 전에, 한 시간 (간호, DIPE 변화 등)에 세를 위해 깨어.

PARI와 침대에서 잠을 처음 몇 일, 제시카는 간신히 ... PARI가 만든 모든 작은 소리가 그녀를 보니 그녀의 "아기 레이더 '와 함께 잠을 수 있습니다. 그러나 그녀는 그것에 익숙해있어, 이제 그녀는 그녀가 정말 잘 자고 그것을 충분히 얻을 말한다, 그것은 깊은 아니라 생각했다.

우리가 병원 후 집에서 수면 리듬에 얻는 방법을 먼저 파악하기 위해 처음에는, 그것은 쉬운 일이 아니었다. 우리는 우리가 PARI는 처음 몇 주 동안 우리에서 잠을 자고하는 것이 가장 좋아하는 것을 발견하는 방법이다 물건, 모든 종류의 시도했고, 너무 우리를 또한 쉬웠다. PARI이 그것을 필요로 할 때마다 PARI 내 아내에서 자와 함께 (물론, 간호 베개가 지원하는 그녀의 무릎에) 큰 의자에, 나의 아내는 쉽게 아웃 한 후 다시 전달, 그녀를 간호 할 수있다.

그리고 난 그냥 내 가슴에 PARI의 잠을 가진 사랑; 매일 밤 것을하고 싶어요.

다만 인생에서 아무것도처럼 - 당신이 당신을 위해 일하는 것을보고 등의 여러 가지 방법을 시도해야 말할 것이다.

업데이트 : 14 개월

내가 먼저 지금 PARI의 거의 14 개월이이 기사를 쓴 이후 올해 정보, PARI는 여전히 밤에 우리 사이에 자고, 나는 그것을 사랑 해요. 그것은 PARI으로 깨어 난 것은, 심지어 그것이 무엇 그녀의 배에 손을 넣어 또는 그냥 거기에 그녀의 잠자는를 확인하기 위해 한밤중에 전복처럼 얼마나 소중한 설명하기 어렵다. 그녀는 우리 옆에 바로이 작은 맛있는 덩어리입니다.

(그녀는 그 날 입모 양에 따라 다름) 30-9pm, 매우 일관 오전 7시부터 오전 7시 15분까지에서 깨어 : PARI는 보통 7에서 침대로 이동합니다.

약 6 개월 전 PARI는 몇 시간마다 밤에 수유를 시작으로이 제스에 많이 어렵습니다. PARI 그녀는 끽끽 소리와 제스 가슴을에서 아빠로 롤오버, 일어나지도 않는, 거의 자신을 깨어 :) 제스 8-9 시간 (보통 10P-7A)에 대한 침대에 있지만, 높은 품질, 깊은 수면을하지 않습니다. 그러나 항상 거친 - 때로는 더 나은 때로는 더 나쁘다.

제스 이상 우리와 함께 PARI의 잠을 갖는 이제까지 년 우리에게 가장 좋은 것은, 장기 아기를위한 가장 좋은 방법이며, 때문에 그녀가 고수했다. 음식이 아기의 육체를 공급하는 경우, 자신의 감정 신체의 터치와 상호 작용에 의해 공급. (어떤 이유로, 미국 문화 및 의사 발전에 중요한 것으로 "터치"를 소중히하지 않습니다 - 그것은 그것의 부족?! 고아 무엇 때문에 명백한 이유)

특히 거친 밤 제스 후 두어 번 밤에 덜 PARI 간호사에 도움을 줄 수있는 방안을 모색 할 정도로 절망적이었다, 그러나 그녀는 뭔가 그녀가 편안한 느낌을 찾을 수 없습니다. 우리는 운 좋게 여기에 산타 모니카에서 박사 제이 고든을 발견하고, 정말 그의 조언을 존중하고, 심지어 자신의 연습에 합류 할 수 있었다.

예를 들어, 여기에 자신에의 기사의 가족 침대에 어떤 패턴을 변경, 수면 . 자신의 포인트의 몇은 다음과 같습니다 : "나는 인생의 첫 해 동안 어떤 강제 절전 변경하지 않는 것이 좋습니다"와 "안아 아기와 간호사 밤새는 '결코'자체에 배울 것을 말한다 사람이 진정 믿거 나하지 독립. 이것은 단순히 사실이 아니다하지만 책을 판매하고 신화는 우리의 문화에있어. "

나는 내 인생의 나머지를 위해, 나는 PARI이 우리와 함께 잤다 시간을 보물 거 알고, 그리고 그것이 곧 오게 슬프다.

아기가 너무 다르기 때문에 나는, 이정표에 많은 생각을 넣지 마십시오, 우리와 함께 자고하는 것은 그녀가 여분의 행복하고 건강한 만드는 넘어 그녀의 영향을 미칠 경우 내가 말할 수 없습니다. 그녀는 행복한 건강한 아기, 그리고 놀이 너무 재미 있어요!

PARI는 10.5 개월에 걷기 시작 그녀는, 아구아, 엄마, 다다이즘, boobah, 개, 오로라 (그녀의 언니), 및 기타 아기 단어가 좋아 구두 말한다 단어의 무리가 있습니다. (- 그녀가 스로틀 운동을하게 심각), 그리고 아마도 몇 가지 다른 그녀는 또한 우리가 그녀가, 배고픈 / 모든 수행을 먹을 간호사 / 우유, 오토바이하려는 가르쳐 몇 손 표지판이있다.

여기에 첫 번째 시간 중 하나를 너무 귀여웠다 ... 그녀는 "오로라"라고했다!

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단 하나의 방법은 없습니다

개최와 접촉되는 것은 아기에 의해 보편적 필요가 있지만, 당신은 당신의 상황에 작동하는 방법으로 그것을 관리하는 방법 당신이 알아낼에 달려있다. 아무리 자신과 같은 전문가 또는 사람들이 당신에게 무엇을, 당신은 가장 자신과 아기를 알고있는 유일한 사람이야 않습니다. 이것은 당신이 당신의 아기 (자고 방법을 결정 포함 안전한 수면에 대한 조언 (내 아내가 성공적으로이 두 번 이루어집니다 당신이 (가 크롤링을 시작하기 전까지는) 어떻게 긴), 당신은 자신의 침대 / 방에서 혼자 자고로 이동하는 방법을 지금까지 그래서 나는 그것이 :) 할 수있는 방법을 하나 이상) 알고있다.

부모가 물리적으로 자신의 아기를 위험에 빠뜨리고의 위험이 높은하고 (깊은 수면을 일으키는 약물에 같은 부모) 그들과 함께 잠을 수없는 경우, 당신이 할 수있는 모두가 최선을 다하고, 당신의 아기를 개최하거나 개최하였습니다 당신은 가능한 한 할 수있는만큼.

예를 들어, 오히려 당신이 산책을 갈 때마다 유모차를 사용하는 것보다, 왜 시도하지 babywearing 시간의 일부를? 동안이나 집 주변 집안일을하고? 우리는 식료품 쇼핑을 갈 때, 나는에 PARI를 입고 사랑 보바 랩 우리가! 그녀가 snuggles 밖으로 전달에 그녀는 일단 그녀는, 너무 사랑한다.

죄책감을 놓아

죄책감, 부모가 없었다. 말 그대로 독성의, 감정적 인 독입니다 또는 완벽하게 모든 것을 '권리'할 수 있습니다. 당신은 "완벽하게 불완전한"할 수 있고 당신이 무슨 일을하는지 그 지금 충분하​​다. 나는 내 아이들이 언젠가 그들은 내가 잘 할 수 있다고 생각 것들의 목록을 확신!

시간과 사랑으로 치유 할 수 없습니다 당신은 당신의 아이들에게했던 것은 아무것도 없습니다. 당신이 할 수있는 모든 최선이다. 당신이 '잘못한'한 모든 일에서 죄에 걸릴 경우, 당신은 자신과 가족 미치게됩니다.

무엇 당신은 이미 침대에서 당신의 유아를 제기하는 경우?

당신이 침대에 아기를 넣어 경우, 아마 당신은 당신의 아이들이 잠시 지금은 잠시 나이 걸 당신과 함께 자고 시도 할 수 있습니다. 아니면 그냥 포옹을 누른만큼 당신이 할 수있는 (그리고 그들이 당신을 할만큼) 등을 키스. 더 많은 실제 터치, 더 나은.

첫 번째는 더 그들에게 어색하고 아마 당신이 ... 단지 그것을 유지, 끈기, 지속적으로, 사물이 이동합니다에서, 그들이 나이. 이런 일들은하지 주, 년이 걸릴.

사람 미치게 할 수 육아

아이들과 우리가 어떻게 부모가 자신의 이러한 친밀한 표현하기 때문에 부모는 감정적으로 주제입니다. 난 당신이 아마 이전에 대해 생각하지 않았다면 아이디어를 소개하고 대화를 시작하기 위해 "당신의 유일한 아이"시리즈를 쓰고 있어요.

나는 의견이 논의 유지 드리겠습니다. 어떤 불타는하지만, 그 도움이되지 않습니다하시기 바랍니다.

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그녀는 여기!


병원에서 12 시간 (일부 쉬운 일부 하드) 한 후, PARI 샬롯 로스는 약 2 주 전에 2 월 26 정확히 자정 (0시)에서 태어났다. 그녀는 10파운드 1 온스이었다 (와우!) 그녀는 아름답고, 건강 그리고 우리가 집에서 그녀를 여기 갖는 마지막으로 즐기고있다.

엄마와 PARI 모두 좋은 일을하고, 그녀의 큰 오빠와 여동생이 충족 잡고 너무 그녀의 키스를 흥분했다.

내 인생의 - - 새 아버지로서 나의 가장 큰 즐거움 중 하나는 다른 사람들이 자고 밤의 중간 (보통 오전 12시부터 ​​오전 6시까지), 우리의 조용한 아빠와 딸 시간이었다. PARI 내가 다시 소파에 누워 그녀는 몇 시간 동안 내 가슴에 푹 잠들 때 나는 사랑 해요.

가끔 난 그냥, 가끔 책을 읽고, 그녀의 호흡을 듣고 영화를 감상하거나 자신을 잠을로 이동합니다. 내가 알고 있기 때문에 어떤 어떤 방법으로, 나는이 나이가 아이들과 함께, 그녀가 성장하고 얼마나 빨리 나는 더 이상이 작업을 수행 할 수 없습니다, 그것의 모든 순간을 위해 너무 감사 해요.

우리가 내린 결정에 대한 최초의 "고유 아이"게시물에 대한 곧 눈을 유지하고 우리가 PARI는 우리에게 물리적으로 자고 중지하도록 서 두에있어 왜 우리가 가진 계획하는 이유를 포함하여, PARI를 데려 올하고있다 첫 해 침대에서 우리와 그녀의 수면은 (는 평생 지속 정서적 차이를 만들 수 있습니다.)

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독특한 천재 슈퍼 히어로 인터뷰 시리즈는 그들의 목적 주위에 사랑 기업을 만든 평범한 사람들에 관한 것입니다.

모든 사람은 (또는 "호출") 목적을 가지고, 당신은 사랑 사업으로, 목적, 어떤 목적을 설정하는 방법은 항상있다. 그것은 당신이 일을 위해 그것을 할 때 매일 당신의 목적을 살기 쉽다!

칩 콘리는 삶의 기쁨, 캘리포니아에서 가장 큰 부티크 호텔 그룹의 설립자 및 CEO이다. 그는 또한 "위대한 기업은 매슬로우에서 그들의 모조 얼마나 피크"의 베스트셀러 저자이다. 최근 공개 된 그의 최근 책은, 감정적 식의 이름과.

내가 칩 콘리에 대해 존경하는 많은 것들 중 하나는 그가 그의 직원에 초점을 맞추고, 그 직장에서 자신의 의미를 찾을 수 있도록하여 삶의 기쁨에서 성공의 기업 문화를 창조하는 방법입니다. 칩은 회사의 성공은 직원의 복지 감정적에 매우 의존한다는 것을 믿는다.

빠른 비디오 소개

그리고 전체 오디오 인터뷰에서 ...

... 청취하거나 아래 다운로드 할 수있는, 여기에 우리가 덮여 몇 가지 포인트는 다음과 같습니다

  • 때때로 당신이 인생에서 가장 어려운시기에 학습 능력이 나중에 서비스를 제공하는
  • 성공의 "장식은"그냥이 될 수 있습니다 - 함정
  • 왜 당신의 감정에 레이블을하는 것은 너무 강력하다
  • 불안 = 불확실성 X 무력 (그리고 그의 위대한 "불안 대차 대조표"기술)
  • 당신이 당신의 자부심과 자신감의 파이 차트를 만든 경우, 얼마나 많은 삶의 비 작업 영역에서 온 것인가?
  • 이 칩을했던 것처럼이 질문에 겁을 당신은, 않습니다 "당신은 아무것도하지 않고 십분 가만히 그에게 어떤 느낌인지 알 수 있습니까?"
  • 당신은 약으로 일을 사용하고 있습니까? , 당신의 가족에서 실행 생활에 자신을 마비, 또는 승인을 찾고?
  • 당신이 우울 CEO라면 가짜 정통하지 남아있는 동안, 당신은 어떻게 직원을 격려 하는가?
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if you are someone who's homeless or can't buy enough food or the simple basics of life, this post isn't for you. if you can buy enough food, have a roof and the other basics, read on…

don't you ever get sick of your own self , your friends, your family? here's what you sound like:

i need to make more money, my friend are making more than me, i am running out of money, i don't want to ask family for money, i don't want to lose the money i have, i put a million dollars on my vision board five years ago when the secret came out so where's my money? , he's a jackass why does he make more money than me, oh shit look at the size of that rock on her ring, that bitch she married him for his money, i need to make more than him/them, why did i make that STUPID investment and lost so much money, i hate my ex- for taking my money, they have so much money why don't we have it , i wish i had more money, i just need more money, i just want to buy a house and then i'll be happy, i just want to get rid of this house that's such a moneypit and then i'll be happy, why don't i have more money, if i had more money then i'd be happy, if i had more money then i'd travel more, once i make enough money then i'll be respected, if i had enough money i'd quit this stupid job, if i had enough money i'd start my own business, once i have enough money i'd sell this business, my friend sold his business for more than i sold mine, once i have enough money then i can get married, once i have enough money then i can have kids, i'd be a better parent if i had more money and could buy them private tutoring, crap i need a lot more money for private school those bills are killer, i want enough money to travel first class because coach isn't good enough , i wish i had enough money for a nanny so they could help me care for my kids, i need money to travel to see my kids since they don't call me, why don't my kids have enough money, i'm worried about my kids' money , my kids are making stupid money decisions, why are my kids worried so much about money? money, money, money, money, money, money, money…

now repeat that ten thousand times.

hasn't that been going on for years? well it's not helping you make more money, and it's for sure making your life more negative.

the irony in your life is that no matter how much you have made, you have RARELY been happy about money (yours or others')…maybe for a few weeks or months or couple of years after a big raise, windfall or selling a company. but then the anxiety grows back slowly, like a dandelion you can't kill.

so here are some steps and ideas for you, in three categories: 1) structural changes, 2) money education and 3) retraining your attitude (especially important if you're already wealthy).

you can make structural changes, such as:

  1. lighten the load and downsize your life & expenses – do you really need to pay that much rent, go out that much, live in that expensive area, pay for private school, etc? or are you just keeping up with the jonses? move to a smaller apartment, buy a cheap used car, move to an area with great public schools (friends say colorado, for example) – wouldn't kids rather and go to public school and have relaxed and loving parents, rather than stressed out parents in an expensive area?
  2. drop some expensive activities – your kids are not going to fail in life if they don't know piano, calculus and french ! stop being stage parents rushing your kids to activity after activity, pushing them like that horrible tiger mom woman (yes, HORRIBLE, i said it); you are just trying to live your own dreams through them with an excuse of 'i want them to succeed.' in other words, you are driving them to make you feel happy and successful , not to make them happy or successful in life . when you push them that hard, you're setting them up for a life of low self-esteem, because they never feel good enough to you , no matter how much they accomplish/money they make/prestige they get.
  3. start a fulfilling business
  4. just get a job (if you've struggled finding a job in guangzhhou , here's a great post by my friend Rich Walker on Why It Seems There Are No Jobs Out There )
  5. zen habits on how to save money
educate yourself about money:
  1. STOP TRYING TO GET RICH QUICK
  2. 같은 도움이 돈을 블로그를 읽고 천천히 부자 또는 세티 년대 ramit 나는 당신이 부자가 될 가르 칠 것을 .
  3. 200 년 전, 벤자민 frankli n은 환상적인 조언했다 이러한 무거운 세금을 아주 나라를 파괴하지 않습니다 예 : "질문자 등을? 우리는 어떻게 그들을 지불 할 이제까지 수 있어야한다? ? 당신은 무엇을 ""벤자민 프랭클린 우리를 권합니다 :이 세금은 매우 무거운, 그리고 정부에 누워 사람들은 우리가 지불해야했다 유일한 사람이라면, 우리는 더 쉽게 배출 할 수; 그러나 우리는. 우리는 우리의 자부심으로 많은 세 번 네 번 우리의 어리 석음에 의해 많이 ... "우리의 게으름에 의해 두 배를 과세 많은 사람들이, 그리고 훨씬 더 슬픈 우리의 일부 (그래서 사실!)

"당신이 어디를 가든 당신이 어디에 그건,"이제까지 문구를 들었다? 당신이 당신의 두뇌와 태도를 재교육하지 않는 한, 당신이 돈을 얼마나 썼는지는 중요하지 않습니다, 당신은 여전히​​ 불안을 많이해야합니다. / 변경 당신의 태도를 재교육하는 방법 :

  1. 좋은 물건에 당신의 마음을 움직여! 공포가 올 때 당신의 삶의 모든 최고의 물건의 목록을 확인합니다.
  2. "난 두려워 ..."처럼, 돈의 주위에 많은 공포 할 수있는만큼의 목록을 작성하여 돈 두려움을 취소합니다. 이 숨겨진 두려움을 제공하고 '침대 아래'에서 밖으로 불안 - 당신은 그들이 그렇게 나쁘지 않아 볼 수있는 빛에 괴물처럼. 당신의 돈을 우려가 올 때 지속적으로이 작업을 수행하고 나는 그들이 휴식을 약속드립니다. 내가 가장 또는 내 숨겨진 돈의 모든 두려움이 버전의 일명 '잘 모르겠어요 난 "을"할 수 있다면', 자신감의 결여를 기반으로 발견했다. '- 난 "을"할 수있어 오, 그건 사실이 아니다'와 '에게 그들을 dissapate 도움이 난 것을 발견했을 때, 나는 보았다.
  3. make a list of all your assets and resources (you have more than you realize), and family does count
  4. make a list of all the ways you can make money, with your experiences, consulting, products, anything.
  5. listen to this brian johnson interview (back to basics – meditation, health, family, + keep a 10 year vision)
  6. listen to marc allen interview (affirmations, patience, success through laziness)
  7. remember life isn't supposed to be easy , and the value of your life is not determined by your job, looks, or financial worth, but by the memories, lessons in love and growth as a person.
list-making advice: some people say make a gratitude list every night. i think that's great to get in the habit, but if you make sure you do it every day, it becomes a chore rather than helpful. i'd suggest that whenever you feel anxiety or fears or jealousy come up, that's when you make the lists or practice shifting your attiude and letting go of fears.

questions, comments? what are you sick of? what else works for you?

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with all the media, blogging and positive psychology study around happiness , i've noticed now that people have a hidden belief or assumption that you're supposed to be happy all. the. time . hell no! that's inhuman, unnatural, and not the purpose of your life. you are supposed to feel the whole range of emotions , including ones like anger and sadness – just in moderation :)

and, with the 4-hour workweek movement, the idea is spreading that life can and should be easy all. . 시간. and if it's not, or you're – god forbid – angry, sad or frustrated… then something is wrong, and you're falling behind. it's as much a guilt-creation as freedom-creation movement.

the value of life is not determined by your job, looks, or financial worth, but by the memories, lessons in love and growth as a person . somewhere/how in our society, we lost sight of this.. perhaps because its easier to turn away from the hard challenges of life (in work, love, parenting, health, etc) rather than face them and grow through them. life isn't supposed to be easy – that's not where most of your growth comes from . haven't you grown as a person the most from the hardest parts of your life?

So – happy Thanksgiving! a perfect time to reflect on what is truly valuable and meaningful in your life.

a longer version of the video (take 1)…which my wife Jessica preferred!

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i'm curious –

If you watched them both, which video do you prefer? Longer, or shorter?

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did you leave a stable job or income to start a business?

myth : you need to work full-time on a new business.

myth: you need to raise money or spend a lot of money to start a company. (for example, both PebbleStorm and Predictable Revenue are profitable businesses built with less than $100 out-of-pocket)

myth: jobs are bad (well, jobs aren't bad, but your boss can be)

if it's taking longer than you thought to get your business off the ground, and you're stressed about money because your savings are almost out, why not get a job (or do more consulting) to fund your dreams and business? especially if you have a family!

HELLO…you don't need to work on a new business full-time . and if you have a struggling business, there might be ways to cut it back and shrink it so that you can put it on part-time “simmer” while you work full or part-time.

here's a quick video about it and the value of a job…

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I'd love to hear from you in the comments…

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PS: picked up the Predictable Revenue book yet?

PPS: need help getting a job? my friend Rich Walker (a coach/author/speaker & CEO of Efficient Technology Inc.) loves helping people redo their resumes and get great jobs. it's a side things for him he's passionate about, and he's amazing at it. check out his post Why It Seems There Are No Jobs Out There , and find out more about him at www.RichardDWalker.com .

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my wife and friend Onna said this is their favorite thing I've ever written!

it's a fun complimentary ebook for parents and kids (esp sons and dads). i put it together as a hardcover book surprise for my son's 7th birthday coming up, but you can enjoy it too :)

download Sons Love Drawing Mutant Robot Battles With Dads

feel free to pass it on to any parents who want a new fun & bonding activity with their kids…

i'm sure the principles would work for moms, daughters or whoever, just switch the robots for ponies and explosions for…well, you tell me!!

have fun,

-air

Updated: you can now get the physical book on Amazon, check it out here .

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[ Update : It's back in stock – click here – and reached the top 0.5% of all books sold on Amazon]

If you missed it, my new book came out recently, Predictable Revenue: Turn Your Business Into A Sales Machine With The $100 Million Best Practices Of Salesforce.com ( blog post and video about it ) . I'm been really happy that it was #1 in its category on Amazon.com, and that people have really enjoyed it and gotten big breakthroughs from it.

So, I'm sitting at my desk last week and I get an email from someone, a forwarded email with a subject of “Your Amazon.com order (#103-7284640-XXXXXXX)”.

I knew I had not ordered anything from Amazon recently, so I clicked the email to open and to my surprise, it said something like this:

“hey man, I ordered your book from Amazon, but I just got a note that they canceled my order. They say they're out of stock and don't know when they'll get more books.”

So I think, “WHAAAT?”

I always thought Amazon.com was a machine, that they had endless supply of all books, including mine. And I thought, “how on earth is my book on back order? It's great that people want it, but not great that they can't get it.”

Now, the note Amazon sent to people who ordered it didn't say “we'll ship it when we get more books.” It said “we don't know when we'll get more books, so we are canceling your order.” Ouch.

Then another email comes through “Your Amazon.com order (#104-1814074-XXXXXXX)” – another request from another CEO, basically “hey aaron, any idea how I can get some of your books for my team? It seems Amazon is sold out.”

My reaction, “What? Another one?”

And then I look and my assistant Kristine is emailing me, saying she just got one.

And my Partner/CEO of Predictable Revenue, Inc. , Marylou emails me and says she just got one… another two emails letting us know the book is on back-order.

So, we had a bit of a crisis on our hands…

Or did we?

Now it turns out that, later that day/week, we connected with other people who thought it was a good thing…as in “hey I noticed your book is on backorder, it must be a great book…I need to get it.”

So, why does everyone else think it's “great” when my Predictable Revenue team and I are in crisis mode?

From Dr. Cialdini's awesome book, “ Influence: The Psychology Of Persuasion “, the Scarcity Principle states, “perceived scarcity will generate demand.”

Apple and Steve Jobs (RIP) were masters of this, with limited supplies of iphones and ipads creating lines around the block.

So I Unique Genius'd it and turned it from “we have a big problem” to “ok, this could be a good thing.” (In the Unique Genius world, your challenges are actually gifts and opportunities in disguise.)

I would have liked to have left this post as a cliffhanger…”how will this turn out?”…but I procrastinated on publishing this post long enough that we've already fixed the issue :) So…a fter a couple of weeks, we did get the Predictable Revenue books back up and running on Amazon so they're back in stock and you can buy one here .

What's Your Problem?

Did something piss you off or frustrate you today, or this weekend, or years ago? Something small (a missing camera) or large (divorce, failed business, children challenges)…how can you flip it and re-examine what good did or could come of it?

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PS: For those of you who are interested, click here for a download of Dr. Cialdini's article in the Harvard Review titled Harnessing the Power of Persuasion, where he explains the Scarcity Principle.

PPS: What was the problem with the book supply? Well, let me just say that it was operator error (that means I messed something up with my publishing service!)

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Kevin Gaither has a couple of wonderful stories to share about how he went from being laid off to having his own business in a couple of years, how that is related to what he wanted to do when he was a kid, and how just helping someone years ago came back to land him a fantastic interview series show…

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Kevin Interviews Aaron Ross About Predictable Revenue

Kevin interviewed me a couple of weeks ago on his show, and came up with the funny title: This Week In Sales: From NASA Nerd To $100 Million Salesforce.com Revenue Stream

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[Update: Predictable Revenue has been the #1 best-selling Telemarketing book on Amazon.com for more than a year, and was in the top 0.1% of all books on Amazon]

After years of baby steps, I'm excited to announce my latest book is out: Predictable Revenue: Turn Your Business Into A Sales Machine With The $100 Million Best Practices Of Salesforce.com.

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It's only a buck ($1!) on Kindle, and under $10 in paperback, on Amazon:

Why I Wrote It

After spending years at Salesforce.com helping build their sales machine, and then seeing how many companies get “the basics” wrong in sales, I realized I had to share this “how to build a sales machine” expertise with others.

I'd met so many CEOs, sales executives and salespeople who spend most of their days beating their heads against the wall because nothing seemed to be working…and I could see how simple some of the solutions would be for them, if they just knew what to do.

And I'd been one of them – a CEO of an internet company that failed – because I didn't understand sales, and was too stubborn to ask for help or admit I didn't know.

This is the book I wish you, and all CEOs, entrepreneurs-to-be, sales executives and salespeople would read to help take so much of the frustration and pain out of selling! It's unbelievable how much time and energy is wasted, especially by “experts” at both small and large companies.

From The Back Cover

“Thomas Edison discovered electricity, Alexander Graham Bell discovered the telephone, and Aaron Ross discovered the Enterprise Market for Salesforce.com.” – SHELLY DAVENPORT – VP Worldwide Sales at Replicon & ex-VP Corporate Sales at Salesforce.com

Discover the outbound sales process that, in just a few years, helped add $100 million in recurring revenue to Salesforce.com, almost doubling their enterprise growth… with zero cold calls.

This is NOT another book about how to cold call or close deals. This is an entirely new kind of sales bible for CEOs, entrepreneurs and sales VPs to help you build a sales machine. What does it take for your sales team to generate as many highly-qualified new leads as you want, create predictable revenue, and meet your financial goals without your constant focus and attention?

Learn Inside…

  • How an outbound sales process, without cold calls or a marketing budget, can generate a 9% response rate and millions of dollars from cold prospects.
  • The Seven Fatal Sales Mistakes CEOs and Sales VPs (even experienced ones) make time and time again.
  • How outbound sales and selling can be friendly, helpful and enjoyable.
  • How to develop self-managing sales teams, turning your employees into mini-CEOs.
  • And more…

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I Would Love Your Help In Getting The Message Out

How can you help get the message out to people who are struggling so hard with sales, who don't realize there are better and more authentic ways to do it?

You can:

  • Buy the book
  • Refer it to friends (CEOs, VP Sales, salespeople, current or aspiring entrepreneurs)
  • Review it on your blog & share it
  • Bulk orders for your sales team, for leadgen or to give as gifts to clients
  • Interview me or Marylou Tyler for your blog, radio or TV audience
  • Invite me or Marylou Tyler to speak
  • Review it on Amazon.com

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For Bulk Orders Or Schedule An Interview

Contact us at kristine at pebblestorm dot com

To Buy The Book…

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So you're unfulfilled or frustrated at your current work, either because it drains you or because you're not making enough money at it. That's common, and a great place to be.

왜? It's giving you an opportunity to reflect on how to stop doing more of what does not work.

It's giving you reasons and incentives to figure out what you really want to do for work, and how you can make money in ways that are fun and feel great.

Yet a block EVERYONE runs into when starting your own “thing” (a project, company, not-for-profit, whatever) is a desire to get people to be interested in your stuff, to “be interesting.” It's true both if you already have an idea you're trying to get people to like, or you're searching for a new idea.

Trying to 'be interesting' is like looking for jobs based on “who would hire me?” while 'being interested' is like job searching based on “where can I make the biggest difference and have the most fun, while making money?”

You won't find fulfillment this way, by trying to “be interesting” to others. It's an endless search for what other people might want, hoping they like you and your work, and being disappointed when they aren't.

How do I know? I spent 15 years climbing the success ladder (investment banking, founding an Internet company, Salesforce.com, Venture Capital, etc) trying to “be interesting”…and yet never truly felt fulfilled or like I was “enough.”

A hidden belief was something like “I'll feel complete after I found a company and take it public…” (not!)

Can I offer you another path that is easier and empowering?

Rather than trying to 'be interesting', you need to practice 'being interested.' And I mean 'be interested', and curious in yourself, as much as in others.

Being interested in yourself looks like “What is interesting to you? What do you enjoy? What could fulfill you? When have you made the most money, the easiest way?”

(For more questions, download a Unique Genius Assessment here )

Being interested in others looks like: “What are some problems of people or businesses you know? What do they want? What is in their way? How do they see that you can help them? What do they see are your superpowers? What would they want you to teach them?”

Make sense?

How Can I Help You With Your Unique Genius?

Now, I'm taking my own advice here. Rather than re-open registration for the Unique Genius Superhero Program by telling you how great and 'interesting' it is, I'm first asking for you to reach out to tell me what you need and what would make it ideal for you.

I created the Unique Genius Superhero Program as a curriculum to teach you and the world how to create work based on values like trust, integrity and patience, how to make money through enjoyment.

The Superhero Program is actually a complete bundle of my four best courses:

Course #1: Light Your Fire
Course #2: Discover & Declare Yourself
Course #3: Make Your First $1 Through Your Purpose and Passions
Course #4: Grow a Fulfilling Business that Can't Fail

The goal is to create a community of 100 million people working with these values, because when you're working with people you trust and like, work can be easy and fun!

(By the way, if you're new here and want to get a sense of what the heck it's about, check out the free Unique Genius Training Videos, such as “Start A Business That Can't Fail” here )

And the best, most well-intentioned work in the world won't make a difference if no one understands it or believes in it. If it doesn't 'speak' to people.

My work won't matter unless I am interested in what you want from it, and how it can best serve you.

I realized that making my work interesting is not what I needed. I needed to get interested, interested in YOU! I needed to get interested in what makes your clock tick, lights your fire, what you need to unlock your Unique Genius …

So, I am asking YOU to write back to my assistant Kristine at kristine-at-pebblestorm-dot-com, answering any or all of these questions:

  • What's the most frustrating part of your day?
  • What matters most to you right now?
  • Why can't you make as much money as you want, doing what you love?
  • What do you want most from work or life?
  • What is in your way from having it?
  • What do you want to do over the next 12-24 months?
  • What's one thing you would love to change about your work or life?
  • Are you comfortable asking for help?
  • If you'd like help in this, what would the help look like?

Or just write anything to us…

Please only write to us if you are willing to “get interested” in the Unique Genius work and Superhero Program (whether it is now or five years from now or just “someday”).

So, please email kristine-at-pebblestorm-dot-com, and tell her your answers to any of those questions (or any you want to make up), or anything else you'd like us to know or request for us to do or create.

Do you know how you get what you want?

Ask for it!

My partners, assistant and I, plus the Unique Genius mentors (past Superhero Program alumni) are listening to you.

This is a way to give you a great opportunity to ask for what you want, and so I can make the program even more effective and inspiring for us all (including me!).

Let's get off the fence together, get interested in our passions and start something today (with a baby step!)

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Becoming more confident and decisive can make your life a lot easier, yet a lot of people still struggle with making choices (I know I have!) We put them off until 'later' or 'someday' and we all know that means, almost, probably never.

Do I change jobs or not? Do I start a company or not? If so, when? Which name do I choose? Do I choose something NOW that I don't love, or do I wait until a better name finds me? Do I charge for my first event? How much? Do I say no to a client or partner I'm not excited about? Do I have a live event, a teleconference or webinar? Etc, etc, etc…

Here is the first rule of thumb (out of seven) I have in my “Decisions Determine Destiny” cheatsheet:

1. Success Requires Decisions: You will not be successful (wealthy, fulfilled, free) unless you can make decisions.

Decision-making is an ESSENTIAL life and business skill that you can develop, like learning to play a sport. By their very nature, you will never have perfect, risk-free clarity with important decisions. At some point you must “leap, and the net will appear”.

What process do you need to go through in order to make a decision and be at peace with it? Some things that can help: meditation, advice, encouragement, physical activity, a deadline, incentives, reflection on how you made supportive decisions in the past, do something with a buddy.

Results and clarity come AFTER a decision is made, not before. A “Maybe state of mind” is not a decision, and will just create anxiety and uncertainty. “Yes” and “No” are decisions that allow you to move forward one way or the other.

You can download the 2-page cheat sheet below.

Decisions Allow Movement & Flow

Other people get stopped by thinking a decision has to be a BIG decision. Don't get me wrong, sometimes decisions are big, but most of the time, we add more drama than need be. Also, you can always break what seems to be a big decision down to smaller ones (in business or in life).

Take my wedding for example. There were tons of decisions for me and my wife to make and tons to plan, people to invite, contracts to sign, design, flowers, photography, dress, you name it, but we planned the whole wedding in 2 weeks ! Being decisive let it flow together.

And I heard from more than one guest that the wedding seemed as if we had been planning for months. Whether you take 2 years or 2 weeks, in the end, a decision is almost always the same you would have made in the first place (if you're practiced at listening to your gut.)

Don't let yourself get overwhelmed with decisions. If you need to, break a big one down into smaller ones. Or make a list of decisions you want to make, then start at the top. It's better to make one and “get it wrong”, yet move forward, than remain stuck and clogged. Even if you make a decision and then are unhappy with it later, at least you tried something and learned from it.

Another way to help you make a decision is to stop thinking about yourself. Think about what your wife, husband, friend, brother, sister, mom or dad would do if they were in your shoes; what would you want them to do?

It's funny how we'll leap for someone else, but more than often… not for ourselves.

So, now it's your turn. What is a decision you want to make, that's bugging you? Choose yes or no, left or right, start or stop. And remember… sometimes saying no is just as powerful as saying yes.

Download The Decisions Cheat Sheet

To help you with making decisions, I created this tool:
Download My Decision-Making Cheatsheet Here

It's important to be comfortable at making decisions. Decisions determine destiny.

And by making them and more of them and exercising your decision-making muscle, you'll make it stronger and build your confidence!

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I've received all kinds of questions about the Unique Genius Superhero Program … here is a list of 30 common ones. Have any more? Leave a comment at the bottom!

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Q: How much time is required?

A: I would recommend at least an hour a week. It's all recorded, so you can put down the program for awhile and come back to it anytime you want. I include a mini-course on t ime management and organizational practices in the program.

Q: I have an abundance of gifts, but am not sure how to combine them and clearly brand/state/market these gifts and skills to an open and appreciative target audience. Will the program help me do this?

A: Yes, most definitely, as you might have seen a sample of in the “ 5 Ways To Make Money On Purpose ” Unique Genius Video on increasing your value.

Q: What if I don't know my purpose or passions?

A: That's what this program is for!

Q: I don't know what I want to do.

A: That's what this program is for!

Q: What if I don't know what I'd be good at enough to charge money for?

A: That's what this program is for!

Q: What if I already know my purpose?

A: Awesome – then you should have a head start on making money with it! But – keep an open mind, because everyone always learns new stuff about their purpose and passions through this work too.

Q: I've tried other programs like this and nothing's worked. How do I know it'll work for me?

A: If you have a really important door that you want to unlock and you have a ring of keys, do you stop trying to unlock it because the first few (or dozens) of keys didn't work? Or do you keep looking for the right key, knowing it's out there somewhere?

Q: How do I know it'll work for me?

A: I don't, but I can make it as simple, doable, effective as possible (and include a 90-Day Unconditional Happiness Guarantee). And it's worked for all kinds of other people already, as I've shared examples of in the Unique Genius videos.

If you've succeeded at anything in your life (whether in business, school, relationships, health…any area), you have the capability to succeed at this.

Q: What if I miss part of the course? I'm going to be traveling for a few weeks during it.

A: The course is all online, and you get LIFETIME ACCESS so you can work on it at your own pace over months or event years :) Along with lifetime access is a lifetime guarantee.

You won't miss anything if you're gone for a few weeks.

Q: Admittedly I would love to “get rich quick” I think we all would. But over the years I have come to understand that “getting rich” is simply doing what you love. If you do what you love it is no longer work and as long as your needs are met you can hold on for the long haul and build it into the empire we desire.

A: I cheated here – no this isn't a question…I just thought this was an insightful comment from Sean Allen :)

Q: How is the program delivered?

  1. The core of it is in online training videos, similar to the free Unique Genius training videos .
  2. Action guides & cheat-sheets with supplement the videos.
  3. Orientation + regular support/Q&A calls.

Do you have a payment plan option?

A: Yes, there is a 3-month payment plan option.

Q: Is this for new entrepreneurs only? I have been in business for several years already.

A: Not all of the content is for you if you already have a business, but most of it is. For example, Rich Walker has been a software CEO for years, and loved the program (his testimonial video is on the registration page , or see it on youtube here ).

If all you want to do is grow your current business and aren't as interested in more fulfillment, check out www.PredictableRevenue.com . If more fulfillment is just or more important as the money, then Unique Genius is for you.

Q: Does the program explain for example how to start a business, or is it just around finding your purpose?

A: The course will show you (the simple ways) of how to start a business, if you don't have one already, and to start making money with it.

Q: I can't afford the course right now. Will you run the course again in the future?

A: Yes, next year I'll run the program again, though I can't say when or if it will be the same price or more or less. If you miss us this time, I'm not going anywhere.

Q: I'm worried about not being able to feed my family. Is this course worth investing in?

A: Rather than this program, is there a full or part-time job you can get to create more conventional financial stability? This isn't a 'hail mary' or get rich quick program.

Q: Is there some mechanism built in the program that will hold participants accountable?

A: No. We, for now, only do that with people who hire us for private or group coaching. What I do in the online Superhero courses is my best to:

  • Make the information as simple and doable as possible
  • Share it in bite-sized chunks
  • Help you create a more compelling vision for yourself and your work, to inspire you to create some better habits

Also, I will have some simple ways to encourage people to buddy up. The BEST way to create some accountability is with the buddy system.

Q: I'm someone with seemingly hundreds of interests and don't have one real big interest or purpose, which seems to me a requirement to be successful with a program like yours. Will the program work for me?

A: First – if you really can't focus at all because of “Shiny Object Syndrome”, you'll have problems succeeding at anything, right? (Whether it's my program or someone else's). So –

Second – you CAN most definitely find that “one thing” that underlies all your interests, as I talk about in Video #3: “7 Step Process To Discover Your Purpose” .

I have a ton of different interests, and my frustration in trying to do them all is what actually led me to create Unique Genius…so the program is most definitely designed for people like you who are tired of scattering their energy and want some RESULTS.

Q: Is the program just for people who want to start a coaching or writing business?

A: Heck no. I categorize businesses into a few key types:

  1. Teaching (experts, training, programs, coaching, speaking, authors)
  2. Experiences (events, travel, experiential seminars)
  3. People Services (time-based consulting, healing)
  4. Online services (web-based services or products, online communities)
  5. Products (digital or physical)

A Unique Genius business can be any kind. (Actually, a Unique Genius business, once it evolves & grows, ends up including all five pieces.)

The teaching model is USUALLY the best place to BEGIN for people, because you can make money before you spend money, it forces you to get really clear on your value, and it can lead to any other kind of business in the future….but you for sure don't have to begin there.

Q: I don't have extra money for start-up costs for a new business.

A: Do you have a $100 – $150? You don't need more than that (though it doesn't hurt to have more of course!) The course is designed to help people move forward in creative ways that don't require much money (as I have done with my businesses).

Here's a recent Wall Street Journal article with three examples of businesses that were started for less than $150: “WSJ: Start-Ups on a Shoestring”

Q: I'm concerned that If I make money from what I love, I won't love it as much.

A valid concern…if you stay focused on bringing your passion into work but without creating a dependency on having to only make money through your passion, you can make money through your passion while still enjoying it.

Q: Can I make enough money from a Unique Genius business to replace the money I make now and more?

A: First, if you need to earn money now, I always recommend that you keep your job or do part-time consulting to create a stable financial situation while you incubate your Unique Genius business on the side, with even an hour or few hours of work a week.

You can replace and improve on your current income, though I can't say how long it will take you – as fast as a year, or as long as several years. It took me about three years to make more than my old corporate job.

The sooner you begin, the sooner you will do it!!

Q: I can't compete in my line of work – how would Unique Genius help me?

A: If you feel that you can't compete, it's likely that you aren't different from the competition, you aren't unique. One thing that makes you unique in all the world is your story, your values, your superpowers…your Unique Genius. Get clear on that and competition will disappear.

Q: I'm worried about what people will think of my purpose and passions. I'm hesitant to share my ideas with people, either family or coworkers.

A: This is just a phase. AT FIRST it's often challenging for most people to share what's coming up for them through the Unique Genius process. I went through this myself, worrying about what people would think, because it was SO different than anything I'd done or was known for.

I have two whole steps in the '7-Step Discover Your Purpose Process”, “Share & Listen” and “Accept”, that help you get through this phase as easily as possible. Again, remember you'll get through this phase.

Q: I have a fear that starting my own business will make me unhappy, either 1) because I fail and suffer embarrassment and ridicule or 2) because I succeed and I get trapped by a lot of unfulfilling work.

A: That's a tough trap you're boxed into – damned if you do, damned if you don't. I guess if you're happy with what you have today, it doesn't matter…but if you aren't, here's what I'd suggest.

You have to try something and experiment, or else you'll never make progress and learn how to thread the needle of these fears.

Even if you do something and it doesn't work out as you wish, you will at least have learned more about what works and doesn't work for you. You can do this without making big commitments, in baby steps.

And besides, I've already written the book “CEOFlow: Turn Your Employees Into Mini-CEOs”… I know that I (and you) can't get trapped by work or having employees!

Q: I'm concerned that I'm going to miss a step, most specifically as it relates to any kind of licensing needed / taxes / etc…all the legal stuff.

A: Those 'business mechanics' are tricky if you start with a business that deals with physical products, or a store… but if you begin with an information or teaching business, you don't have to worry about 90% of that stuff!

Q: I have a very clear picture of the life I want to live but am having a hard time breaking the limiting beliefs I have to achieve my goals.

A: Everyone has limiting beliefs – I have had them, and still do :) Much of the course is actually about breaking limiting beliefs – as you may have seen in the “How To Start A Business That Can't Fail” video .

I had a ton of limiting beliefs that held me back before I started PebbleStorm & Unique Genius. There's no reason you can't break 'em with some help from myself, the guest trainers & encouragement from other PebbleStormers.

Q: I don't have any skills, gifts or passions that are valuable, in terms of being able to get paid for them.

A: This is what the course is for – to help you recognize the skills, gifts & passions that you have but are buried or that you don't recognize in yourself. This is a common and natural phase to begin at, because you take yourself for granted. The irony with superpowers is that they're often too natural to you (like breathing) for you to notice J

If you're at 'ground zero' with no idea or confidence in your gifts, you can still unlock your Unique Genius. It takes commitment, baby steps and patience, because part of what you'll be doing is changing your mindset and habits.

I'll bet though that you'll surprise yourself at how quickly in the course you'll get some clarity & see where to mine your value!

Having said that…being totally honest with yourself, if you are pessimistic, I would recommend that you not register for Unique Genius.

Q: I want some more personal, 1-1 help from you. What are my options?

If you want more help than just in the Unique Genius Superhero Program , contact me through www.PebbleStorm.com/coaching to set up a session so we can get to know each other.

Q: Is the Program more than just the worksheets, items from the blog, “package” into the modules? I realize the bonuses are different, but the true core of the Program…? Besides the calls, are the exercises more in depth than the blog?

Yes, definitely.

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if you've been struggling for quite awhile now in figuring out what you want to do for work, what is your purpose, and how you can make money at fulfilling work that feels good…

you are not alone in this!

from coaching hundreds of people on figuring this out, i have some helpful insights for you so you can see that all your struggling means you are exactly on the right track, and what to do about it. And… I promise you do get through the hard part at some point, just like the image of this arrow.

you see, i think unfulfilled people have a hidden perception or belief that goes something like “finding my purpose is hard, but once i find my purpose and i know exactly what i am meant to do with my life, everything will be easy…i will have everything all figured out.”

ironically, it is the opposite that is true! finding your purpose is the easy part. it's doing it, living it, actually BEING it, that is hard (which is why you unconsciously avoid finding it).

it's sort of like physical health. you know what to do to be healthy, you should eat vegetables, drink water, move your body, sleep and meditate, etc. The hard part is doing it :)

what if i told you that when you find your life purpose:

  • it might cause you to divorce your spouse; or get back together with an ex-spouse
  • you might have to move states or countries; or move back home
  • you will move on from 9 in 10 of your current friends and coworkers
  • you will estrange yourself from your family; or you will become loving friends with your family if you're already estranged
  • you'll have to start your first business or organization
  • you will have to shut down your current business if you have one

like a forest burning now, leaving ashes, so that a new, fresh forest can grow.

and the best part is that when your forest burns down and you're left are living more on-purpose, guess what? it's the best thing that's ever been 'hard to do' in your life. (the hardest things in life – like a divorce, bankruptcy, etc. – can be the most rewarding, later.)

why? because I know when you get through the (next) hard part, your life is more fulfilling and rewarding.

so, even while I'm saying it's 'hard to live your purpose', it's even harder not to live it at all – like being trapped in a dying relationship or business. in the end, it's totally worth the challenge and life changes, because then everything gets aligned and can flow… but it can take years to get there… that's where the 'hard part' comes back in.

i could go on, but here is the point: for most people (not all), “ who you really are” is very different than the “who you are currently being/living” .

so if you find your purpose, your life will get turned upside-down over the course of 1-5+ years, while you change your whole life around so that it reflects who you really are… (don't get me wrong, eventually you'll live a get through it and be glad you did)… but until then…

this is scary shit for most people!

hence the importance of baby steps, meeting supportive people, and building your self-acceptance and confidence.

if you're struggling with finding your purpose, that is the good news, because it means you care about it, and it's an early step in the process. i'd only be worried about you if you weren't struggling, because it'd mean you are apathetic.

so what to do?

the best step: talk with NEW people! this is hard to figure out on your own. usually it's not that helpful to reach out to current friends and family, as they are more interested in keeping you 'the same' and know you too well…except if they are the super-supportive types.

what are some key steps to start with?

here are some suggested Unique Genius resources:

good luck, and remember “finding and living your purpose” is a lifetime, never ending process. no matter where you get to or what purpose you discover, there is always something more beyond it, a 'next level'…you never finish it.

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[ Update : we're also now expecting a new baby girl in Feb 2012!]

Have you ever had a perfect day?

A recent one was my wedding on May 8th, when I married Jessica Henning Ross. The day was incredible on its own…and even more so since it came together so quickly (in less than two weeks), naturally and was fun!

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We enjoyed the planning of it, the wedding day itself, and afterwards.

A Few Reasons Why I Love Being With And Married To My Wife Jessica

  • We make each other laugh every day!
  • Jess is the most honest, authentic and inspiring person I know – I and anyone else around her grow and learn through osmosis :)
  • We have a lot of fun and fulfillment in parenting our two kids, Valentin (6) and Aurora (8)…even though parenting often feels challenging for both of us
  • We totally support each other in living our dreams -I help her, and she helps me (it's not unbalanced)
  • We can be 100% ourselves and authentic and open with each other (no secrets)
  • Our relationship only gets better with time, as we get to know each other and share more and more of life's downs and ups
  • We celebrate together all of life's “little things” that makes us happy…our inside jokes, funny moments, stories and such
  • I know Jessica and I will grow as partners, not break, from the challenges that life will share with us in the coming decades
  • We get to shoot more guns, fly more helicopters and do other fun stuff together as she launches and grows her Unique Genius business Bond Girl Bootcamp , helping women have fun being badasses and growing their confidence!
  • Jessica doesn't buy into the “happily ever after” BS fairytale myths about getting married and having kids…she knows what real life is like, and how to have fun TODAY and make a real-life relationship work.

Heh I could go on; now back to the wedding…

Planned In Two Weeks, On Budget and Lots of Fun!

In mid-April 2011, we decided to get married in early May 2011, yes just a couple of weeks away. Why do that, instead of wait six more months? the best way I can describe it was that we were called to do it…and it worked out perfectly.

Leap and the net will appear.

We 'threw a rock' and picked Sunday, May 8th for the wedding, giving us about two weeks to put it together. Beyond that, we knew we wanted it to be small, fun for us, and not break our bank (less than $10,000). Who wants to wake up after a wedding and start a new life with a mound of bills or debt that could take months or years to pay off?

Anyone who's planned a wedding should think “Two weeks! Are you kidding?” Nope! If you give yourself six months to plan a wedding, it will take six months. If you give yourself two weeks to plan it, it takes too weeks.

Everything came together naturally, through a combination of 'doing the legwork' of putting the pieces together, plus trusting that no matter how it came together, it would be fun and perfect.

In fact, people who came were amazed, that it felt as if we'd planned it for months. (Yes, I am patting my wife and myself on the back here, ha!)

Once we picked a date, other puzzle pieces could fall into place. The “hardest” part at first was finding a venue, because so much of the planning depends on it. We wanted to stick to a budget of $5,000-$8,000, and many places we looked at were $2,500 and up, and while nice, didn't have that “we want to get married here” feeling for us both.

Luckily, or as fate would have it, a little more than one week before the wedding, Jessica ran into someone in an elevator who told her about the Santa Monica Annenberg Community Beach House…which ended up being PERFECT! We rented the attached “Marion Davies” guest house there. Not only could we get married on the beach, they had a venue right there for the reception, they had plenty of orange sun umbrellas (buddhist orange and white were our wedding colors), plenty of parking, and it was much less expensive than any place else. It was a no-brainer.

Everything seemed to “choose us”: the dress, the makeup & hair, my 'suit', the people, the ceremony, the caterer and food, everything. In each case, we would look at some options, be patient, and at some point one option would surface as the clear, best one.

We really didn't struggle much at all. There were some times where we had some anxiety about everything coming together – such as not having a venue and caterer until a week before the wedding! However, we kept choosing to believe that it would all work out perfectly and that we couldn't get it 'wrong,' no matter where it was, what her dress was, or what was served as the food.

One thing we didn't do beforehand was register. That wasn't important to us at the time. After the wedding, we started making some travel plans and registered with TravelJoy …a honeymoon travel fund. We believe life experiences are more important than stuff, especially for the kids.

I feel like there are lots of business and life lessons here in putting energy into a project while letting it unfold naturally without forcing it :)

Fun With Guns

For my impromptu 'bachelor party' i went shooting with casey berman of LeaveLawBehind and eric galen of Music180 :

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(By the way, I did both the above videos in about 20 minutes each, for free, in Apple's iMovie 2011 on my MacBook Air…their movie templates are great! Speaking of which, of course I had to get an “Air”, ha!)

The Ceremony – & A Big Surprise!

Jessica had asked if we could spend some money on a surprise at the wedding. Little did I know she'd be escorted out to the ceremony area on the beach by a troupe of Chinese Lions and performers! Now THAT was an incredible wedding entrance!!

Some other highlights:

* I can't explain how much love and excitement i felt seeing her walking down the beach pathway, in her perfect, simple white dress, with our two kids leading the way, escorted by the Chinese troupe. It felt incredible. This was also one of her favorite parts.

* Our friend Christie Cole led a 5-minute buddhist chanting session to start it off…I have to believe no one there'd ever done that at a wedding! It set the whole tone for the day of doing it our way, fun, peace, surrender and meaning. it was a perfect way to start the ceremony. (If buddhist chanting intrigues you, check out the 10-million strong SGI organization , which my wife is a part of.)

* Another best friend, R ich Walker , agreed to be our minister. Iit took him a whole 60 seconds to officially become a minister online through the Universal Life Church ). By the way, I recommend Rich's new book .

* Our vows ( download here to read) were originally written by my Unique Genius business partner/exec asst (and entrepreneur / life guide) Kristine Sloane for her wedding. By the way, thank you Kristine for taking such great care of me!

* During the vows and 'I do's, I either cried or was about to, looking at my wife and best friend, someone who feels like a twin soul and that we've been together in other lifetimes. I felt incredible and in so much love…

More Pictures : see the whole album of wedding pictures on Shutterfly .

Our photographers were the fun and talented couple of Danial and Kendra of Triple Scoop Photo – we highly recommend them!

Jessica's Favorite Parts

I asked Jess to share some of what were her favorite parts of the day:

  • “Walking down that long walk and just looking straight at you, with everything happening around, I just kept focused on you.”
  • “The approaching with the music, seeing all of our friends everyone clapping.”
  • “When we said our vows and seeing you almost crying.”
  • “When you grabbed my hand at the top of the house when we walked out for the first time as husband and wife.”

Yes, yes and yes :)

The Future

I can already tell how much I'm learning from having fun and being a husband and father, and that what I learn from family life will be a big part of my writings and teachings. For example, there are many parallels between my CEOFlow book and in guiding a family.

If you can inspire adults, you can inspire kids, and if you can inspire kids, you can inspire adults – people are people! It's funny seeing how much we have in common, and how much I and other adults can learn from kids and in being parents.

Want To Learn, Connect & Grow With Us?

In addition to my blog, I have started a subscription-based, intimate newsletter called “Fresh Air” ('air' is my nickname). It's a place I can easily share more often and 'in the moment' the the little things during a day that lead to big business and love/family breakthroughs – and the parallels between the two. I will also be sharing details in it on how to grow a business while traveling with family, as we plan on doing this year.

To sign up, go to: www.Letterly.net/Fresh-Air

If you want to find out more about Jessica and her business, check out www.BondGirlBootcamp.com .

감사합니다!

-air

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독특한 천재 슈퍼 히어로 인터뷰 시리즈는 그들의 목적 주위에 사랑 기업을 만든 평범한 사람들에 관한 것입니다.

모든 사람은 (또는 "호출") 목적을 가지고, 당신은 사랑 사업으로, 목적, 어떤 목적을 설정하는 방법은 항상있다. 그것은 당신이 일을 위해 그것을 할 때 매일 당신의 목적을 살기 쉽다!

Today, I'm interviewing Cath Duncan, Creator of Agile Living . Her purpose is to help entrepreneurs and professionals to be more adaptable, resilient, motivated, confident, creative and clear in their work.

She calls it 'agile living' because the people she works with know how much their work affects other areas of their life – they know that life and work changes often go hand-in-hand when you're looking to create a better quality of life for yourself.

Last year, Cath and her husband got pregnant after being married for 12 years… and after a few months, as they got incredibly excited, before she was born, they learned the baby's heartbeat had stopped. Also, she learned her kidney challenges could prevent her from ever naturally having a child. She'd lose her daughter, a vision of motherhood, and her energy and inspiration. Cath just recently started “coming back to life” after grieving for five months. We talked in depth about these topics, and how it especially related to her as an online entrepreneur…

여기에 우리가 인터뷰에서 덮여 무엇의 일부입니다 :

  • how she transitioned from being a social worker to online entrepreneur
  • how her pregnancy hurt her kidneys and put her and her daughters life at risk
  • what it was like to find out her daughter's heartbeat at stopped
  • a big fear while grieving and slowing down in life – “im getting left behind”
  • how after 5 months of grieving and no motivation she decided she'd have to find inspiration again
  • how ALL of us are “half-baked” (works-in-progress)
  • the ridiculous and unfair comparisons we make on facebook (“compare and despair”)
  • undoing her beliefs about what it takes to be happy and successful
  • how we can heal from the most awful things

Cath also shares how the simple practice of walking became a big part of her life.

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hi there,

it's been awhile – in my mind – since i've written you.

i started to feel some guilt over it, as in “i need to write you again” in a blog post.

but you didn't even realize i was 'missing' and hadn't written you for awhile until i came back and told you i was missing, right?

funny!!!

i made up all the “i should write” guilt in my own mind.

all your guilt and “shoulds” you make up in your own mind. you create it all for yourself.

  • i should look for a new job
  • i should start a business
  • i should work more/harder
  • i should make more money
  • i should have more fun
  • i should be a better parent
  • i should write another blog post
  • etc etc etc

sometimes it is better to take action and do something (like writing a blog post).

sometimes it is better to do something “internally” to tell the 'guilty voice' in your head to SHUT UP… maybe literally, or by going and playing, by meditating, or whatever your own practice is to retrain your mind…such as studying and practicing patience. (patience is such an under-appreciated quality, in both life and business!)

no matter what, guilt is toxic and the more you can let go of it, the happier, fearless & more productive you'll be.

i've been working for years to create a “guilt free zone” in my own life and in pebblestorm. it's a 'great work' in progress :)

i would love to eradicate guilt…but in the meantime, like an unwanted visitor, i'll settle for letting it visit less frequently, and when it does pop up showing it the door faster.

speaking of which, in a couple of weeks i'm re-opening the Unique Genius Superhero Program. the Program is actually a bundle of four courses (“Light Your Fire”, “Discover & Declare Yourself”, “Make Your First Dollar Through Your Purpose & Passsions”, and “Make As Much Money As You Want”).

so if the idea of creating work around principles like patience, baby steps, trust, fun and integrity is appealing, 1) keep an eye out, and 2) check out the training videos that are up on www.UniqueGenius.com .

you can make money through enjoyment!

in gratitude 'n' good stuff,

-air

aaron 'air' ross

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Double Double, a guide from Cameron Herald, "Back Pocket COO" 독특한 천재 슈퍼 히어로 인터뷰 시리즈는 그들의 목적 주위에 사랑 기업을 만든 평범한 사람들에 관한 것입니다.

모든 사람은 (또는 "호출") 목적을 가지고, 당신은 사랑 사업으로, 목적, 어떤 목적을 설정하는 방법은 항상있다. 그것은 당신이 일을 위해 그것을 할 때 매일 당신의 목적을 살기 쉽다!

Cameron Herold is one of the country's most innovative business leaders and was a leading force behind one of the most successful new business ventures of the last decade, 1-800-GOT-JUNK ?

He was Chief Operating Officer for nearly seven years and his innovative business leadership helped enable the company to build a presence in 46 states, 9 provinces, and 4 countries. During his tenure, numerous MBA programs studied the company, including the prestigious program at Harvard. He helped grow the company from $2 million to over $100 million in revenue!

One of the many things that I admire about Cameron is that he knows building a successful brand and hyper-growth business isn't about personality or luck. It's about having the right systems. Cameron can give you the framework and proven solutions that will accelerate your revenue, build your profitability, and help you avoid costly problems. It really IS like having a COO right in your back pocket.

Cameron's Unique Genius is: “to lead and energize people by using quick, intuitive alternatives to build plans that reverse engineer their dreams.” ~ AWESOME!

여기에 우리가 인터뷰에서 덮여 무엇의 일부입니다 :

  • how writing 20 minutes a day and making lists led him to the work he loves, his dream business
  • how clearly & specifically Cameron describes his ideal clients (awesome!)
  • a great story about how he got over being chicken and fired someone he'd needed to fire for six months (ps – his mentor gave him the advice that 'you've been stealing his life from him by not firing him')
  • why his “painted picture” visioning is so important for clients, and why he started it after learning how olympic athletes used visualizing
  • his three key areas of vision, people, and focus

Cameron and I also talk about his last chapter called “Letters To Myself”…which includes all kinds of advice to his 'past selves'! That section of the interview and in the book you do not want to miss.

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