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An IMPORTANT Lesson From A Death & Reminder Of How Fragile Life Is

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This is a direct excerpt from an email I wrote to my Unique Genius Superhero Program clients on Tuesday, October 12th:

Jessica Henning is my girlfriend (partner). Her best guy friend, Marc, was killed in a fatal car accident on Sunday.

Jessica was able to get to the hospital in time to see him. They both had the gift of being able to talk just before he passed. Marc was able to share with her his dying message, to paraphrase: “…all you have are the memories and experiences and love…”.

I’m tearing up again just writing this.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the drama and stress of life (around money, health, relationships…) – all of which is crap we create for ourselves.

I don’t have a simple answer on how to cut through the crap instantly to reconnect every day with what’s important, which is love of yourself and others (and related feelings, like fun, joy &, gratitude)…which come from awesome relationships and experiences.

I can see that everything that I’m putting into the Superhero Program is meant to help you do this, to create a life of happiness based on authentic work.

Who is someone you could email, call or write to express how much you appreciate them, have learned from them or love them?

Final Thought

Life’s too short to do work that sucks or be in a relationship that drains you.

No one else is going to save you – not your spouse, mom, coach or friend – only you can do that.  Many of you already are awesomely working on it.

Yet even if you’re one of those people that complains about your job or relationship but never does anything about it (though if you fixed it, you’d have nothing to complain about) then take responsibility for your own life and ask yourself:

  1. How did I create what I have today? (If you blame others for what you have, that’s the “victim” in you talking)
  2. What do I actually, authentically want?
  3. Commit to taking a first baby step, and then frickin’ take it!

Baby steps, baby steps, baby steps.

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7 responses to “An IMPORTANT Lesson From A Death & Reminder Of How Fragile Life Is”

  1. David Sonnenschein Avatar
    David Sonnenschein

    Yes, this is a sincere reminder for me and us all, the value of each moment and each relationship. My personal struggles with family illness have clarified those precious times we have with each other, that so easily can evaporate before we’re “ready”. We can choose, or at least try, to already be ready, be clear in our intention and embrace the beauty in front of us NOW. The plans, ideas and dreams for the future should bring joy in this moment, as we dance on our path of reality today.
    Thanks to you Aaron, and Jessica, for the reminder. Blessings – David

  2. Tambre Leighn Avatar
    Tambre Leighn

    I learned at age 17 with the death of my mother that life is short and that it is people, love and incredible experiences that matter most, not things (in other words no-things). My husband’s cancer diagnosis at 34 and his death three years later nearly destroyed my desire to go on. But I learned that we honor the memory of those we have lost by doing whatever it takes to recover our joy and design a life lived on purpose and with passion. Tomorrow is not a good enough day to begin to make the most of the time we have. It is now.

    Thanks to you and Jessica for sharing a personal reminder through Marc’s inspired message.

  3. George Arabian Avatar
    George Arabian

    Thank you my friend for sharing!

    My prayers and thoughts with you and Jessica – how tragic…

    A mentor of mine who was a professional athlete but had a tragedy in his life that caused him to turn to ministry …he worked with folks that were dying in their final days…

    He shared a truth that I want to share with you …to quote:

    ” I can guarantee you that at the end of your life only two things will matter and ONLY two!”

    1. Your will reflect on the quality of your relationships – did you love and allow yourself to be loved – were you a good father, son, friend, team mate etc…?

    2.The second thing and only thing you will reflect on is did you have a cause greater than yourself?

    You my friend are blessed with having answers to each of the questions above…

    I admire the work your doing…and am mindful in my next phase to have passion and love for what I am doing…

    Thanks again for sharing,

    George

  4. Caroline Avatar
    Caroline

    Keeping you, Jessica and all your families in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love and light and gratitude for always keeping it real.

  5. Lisa Tarrant Avatar
    Lisa Tarrant

    Aaron,

    Please pass along my sincere sympathy for Jess. How beautiful that she was able to have those last precious moments, how devastating to lose someone in such a fashion.

    Thank you for the reminder. It’s sad that we need to be reminded to enjoy life for what it is, but we do.

    Lisa

  6. Bob Avatar
    Bob

    Thanks for sharing Aaron. My mother passed away 3 weeks ago after a long fight against complications from cancer surgery. I, my dad, and a brother were with her at the end. Often people speak of the “loss” when someone dies. While that is true, I chose to look at it another way. I think of how blessed I was to have her as my mom for almost 50 years, which is a gift not everyone gets. To be honest, we typicaly communicated via email or telephone, and only saw each other a few times a year so there is little impact on me day to day. Still, I never felt she wasn’t there, and still feel that way today. As long as I live, she will live in me, and continue to remind me of what is truly important in life.

    Your message is great, keep sharing it!

  7. Mike Muson Avatar
    Mike Muson

    A great message derived from an unfortunate situation. I completely agree with your perspective.

    I hope Jessica continues to pursue her passion and her happiness. I’m betting that would be the best way to honor her friend Marc and the impact he had on her life.

    Thanks again for sharing,
    Mike Muson

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